Monday, March 12, 2012


I'd like to welcome authors, Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood to my blog today. As a special treat, they have volunteered to post a GUEST BLOG!

Do Romance Authors Have Sex?

Leia's answer:

I had a conversation recently with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while who had just read my first two books and wanted to know if I had more. The first thing she said, after assuring me she loved them, was, “As I’m reading I can’t help but wonder if the sex scenes are from real life.” As in my life.


Now I’m a happily married thirty year old woman. It shouldn’t be a surprise that I enjoy sex with my husband. That, however, has nothing to do with my books. Do you have sex that includes blood drinking, rolling around on a cave floor, hours of foreplay, multiple orgasms, and a geyser-like explosion of pleasure at the end with a man who looks like Antonio Banderas, says all the right things, touches all the right places, and cares only about your pleasure? Don’t answer that. I might get jealous.

But I don’t know if I want my friends picturing my husband and I doing the dirty (sometimes literally as I have a thing for outdoor sex in my books). First of all, I’m no supermodel gymnast with porn star moves and skin that tastes like honey. My husband is handsome, but his sweat doesn’t glisten over sun-tanned skin bulging with muscle. And if we had sex like my supernatural characters, someone would likely pull a muscle (if not end up in the ER).

Trust me. My books are fiction.

What I will tell you is this: I can describe orgasms because I’ve had them. I can write true love because I’ve experienced it. I have yet to be bitten by a vampire but I did have an erotic dream about it once. Close enough. I can depict a deep connection between two individuals because I’ve felt it. And I can write an HEA because I have one.

So do romance authors have sex? I can’t answer for everybody but I do! And like our book, 31 Flavors, it isn’t always perfect. But that’s not the point. They call it “making love” for a reason.

Cari's answer:

Since I write not only fantasy, but BDSM fantasy set in other worlds, I’m even less likely than Leia to have done what happens in my books. I mean, goodness, I have people strapped facedown to the undersurface of horizontal crosses watching the clouds go past.

“The beams under her tilted sideways until she looked at wall, not ceiling, and then kept on rotating until the cross stopped with her looking down at the glass, watching clouds curl past below. The leather gag took the weight of her head, pressing at the corners of her lips.

Freakin’ hells and heavens above. She was upside down, and the only things holding her on were the chains and the straps on her body and spread limbs.”
So, upon thinking for some time and wrestling with my memory, I’d have to say no, I can’t recall ever having sex like that. Scratch that one off the list. Neither have I ever had a bondage picnic after landing my gyrocopter next to a riverbank. Though I’d like to…especially if I get to keep her maroon leather jacket with all the buckles, her tights and brass goggles. I’d also point out that like Leia’s characters, mine tend to have over-the-top orgasms that blur reality, cause volcanic explosions, and sometimes leave the bed smoking. I don’t seem to recall any of those either.

Damn, what am I doing wrong?

Nevertheless, if stripped each love scene back to the skin and bones of just the people, I guess you could, at a stretch, wonder if there is a basis for what I write in real life. A bit. Lol Like Leia, I base sex on the sex that I have experienced. Bear in mind that those women who write m/m sex are extrapolating also, and so do I. Most of my books have some of the story told from the POV of the man, yet I’m not a man. Imagination is king.
As long as the sex scenes stir my readers, I’m happy.

31 Flavors is different however. That book is based in reality. The sex is as close to real as we could imagine it. Alas, Sidney forgot to take notes so the itty bitty details are fictionalized and perhaps closer to immaculate than really happened. We had to take some liberties.

Book Exerpt:
There are some things in life you have to try before you know how they will affect you.

After 5 years of awful sex, I was ready. Bondage and spanking had always featured in my fantasies, and one day, I convinced my husband to try them. That day was a turning point.

Ice cream comes in many flavors and that’s us too -- not vanilla, maybe not Rocky Road either. We can be a combination or make up our own and no one has the right to judge us. But there will always be one question that tears at my soul: Will my husband, Nick, ever be happy with what I crave?

Format: eBook, 119 pages
Publisher: Wicked Cucumber
Genre: Contemporary BDSM romance, based on a true story
Release Date: February 14th, 2012

Sites where you can purchase 31 Flavors:

Book Review:
(I purchased this book from Amazon)
31 Flavors is a short, funny, sexy read that I absolutely adored. The fact that Sidney and Nick have problems, struggle through them, and have fun during sex is just the cherry on top of my sundae. It also shows the reader that no one else has the right to label your sex life, tell you that you're 'doing it wrong', or that you aren't a true Dom/sub.  It is how you and your lover define it--the rest doesn't matter.
5 Horny Devils

You can find out more about these authors and their books at the following sites:
Leia's Website
Leia at Goodreads
Leia's Twitter
Leia's Blog
Leia's Facebook

Cari's Website
Cari at Goodreads
Cari's Blog


  1. thanks for having us here! and i'm so happy you liked the book! if readers have questions i'll be around to answer here in the comments :)
    i hope readers enjoy this book as much as we did writing it.

    1. Leia--it was a pleasure having you both here. I loved the book and would love to see you two ladies write more together. I like the idea of writing "RL" BDSM stories--you captured the emotions, the hilarity, the angst; everything that encompasses true-to-life and made it a terrific read.

    2. we're toying around with the idea. i'm trying to convince Cari to write a Vampires in Space series but she mostly rolls her eyes ;)

      contemp real life with humor seems to fit us. we'll see what we come up with.

  2. Leia is good at making me roll my eyes.
    But yes, redoing a real life story is difficult as not that many people are willing to open up enough to have a story written about them. Contemporary with humor is the closest we are contemplating at the moment.

    1. Cari-
      Although I would LURVE the Real Life thingy....I also am a sucker for contemporary with a splash of humor ;)
      Thanks for a great guest blog!

  3. Really? Hmm. That sways my opinion C S
    Thank you for having us!

    1. If you and Leia write as emotionally and erotically as you did with 31 Flavors, I will be all over it like white on rice :) Just sayin'...

  4. I look forward to reading 31 Flavours. As a romance novelist, I must say I have an incredible sex life with my husband; and when I invent a particular sex scene in my head, I make him act it out with me so I can, first, be sure it is ergonomically possible, and also so I can get it all down correctly on paper so the reader can "see" exactly how it plays out.


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